Imin a relationship currently, but before that, I had been single my whole life (minus a brief stint with a passionate love affair in the sixth grade).
Simply put, I was used to being single, and I was good at it.
is one good at being single, you ask? Well, its quite simple: You refuse tosettle, and you learn to be OK with doing things by yourself so you dont feel the need to settle.
There are people who have those two rules down pat, and then, there are the people who frankly just suck at being single.
And how do you suck at being single? You do just the opposite of the rules listed above: You settle, and you hate doing things by yourself so much that you act onthis need to settle.
So you find yourself giving these doofus guys a million and one chances, whiletheyre simultaneously destroying your self-esteem and keeping yourself from meeting someone great.
Read along for a comprehensive profile of every guy youre clogging your life with when you just SUCK at being single.
The guy who bails on you last minute every single time
You give this guy the benefit of the doubt because you like him. But rather than actually liking him, you onlyto like him, but he makes it impossible because hes never around.
Every time he bails, he chips away at your self-esteem a little more, but you keep making future plans because youwant to believe hell actually show up next time.
The guy who is blatantly in love with someone else
You can imagine how the whole he doesnt love you, hes just using you thing that comes with this guy wouldnt dofor your self-esteem.
Its clear this guy isnt focused on you like youre focused on him, but for some reason, he keeps you around anyway.
The guy who dates you while he also blatantly has a girlfriend whom hein love with
He may not really be in love with her, but hes still in the relationship with her, AND he stilldates you on the side.
Even if he reallylove her and reallylove you, is beingthe side piece of that coward REALLY worth it?
The guy who only speaks to you when hes drunk
Yeah, its really not GREAT for the old self-esteem when the guy who was inside of you last night wont soberly acknowledge your existence the next day.
The guy who says mean things to you
You know, the guy who calls you mean names and goes out of his way to make you feel terrible about yourself and the guy whom you spend too much time crying over.
BETTER TO BE WITH HIM THAN BE TOTALLY ALONE, RIGHT? (Wrong.)
The guy who ignores you in public
Behind closed doors, this guy LOVES you. But as soon as those doors open up, he wants nothing to do with you at all.
Heeven acts like hes embarrassed by you, butyou still try to make it work because you think if you try hard enough, maybe he wont be embarrassed eventually.
The guy whose friends know nothing about you, even though friends know his full name, birthday and SS number.
If he liked you, his friends would know about you. I know that, you know that, he knows that and knows that.
Yes, youre a little embarrassed by the fact that you so OBVIOUSLYlike him way more than he likes you, but you just makelame, arbitrary excuses for him, like hes a boy ormaybe he just keeps to himself, to convince yourself this is normal.
The guy whokicks you out when hes done hooking up with you
This man literally will not let you sleep in his bed for an entire night. The minute he comes in you, he decides its time for you to go.
He is, without a doubt, THE WORST, but something about him seems to make that one fleeting instance of togetherness worth the comedown of being kicked out.
The guy who refuses to cuddle
This guys done hooking up, and before you know it, youre pushed off to the opposite side of the bed, where youre left feeling sad, alone and frankly kind of cold because hes a cover hog.
You try to convince yourself this is normal and thatyou actually hate cuddling anyway because HES A HUMAN WHO WANTS TO BANG YOU, AND TO YOU, THATS BETTER THAN BEING SINGLE.
The guy who makes you feel like vomiting when youre lying in his arms
Your body literally rejects this guy. He holds you in his arms, and you feel more uncomfortable than youve ever felt.
But you still keep coming back because hesor hesor hes just.
The guy who hits on all your friends.
You cant take him out with you because he gets handsy with your friends and will honestly hit on anyone with a pulse.
You try to convince yourself that this is no big deal, that hes just being friendly and that hes just a flirty guy who happens to like you the most. But we all know the truth: If hes doing this in front of you, God only knows what he does when youre not around.
The guy every single one of your friends despises
If every single one of your friends hate him, its probably for a good reason. So stop trying to convince yourself that theyre wrong. Theyre not.
The guy who told you he doesnt want a relationship (even though you do)
When this guy tells you he doesnt want a relationship, youll probably pretend like youre totally cool with that because WHY NOT? You think theres a chance hell see how COOL you are and change! (Spoiler: He wont change.)
The guy who told you he wants a relationship (even though you dont)
Youre probably stringing this guy along for the attention, even though you dont quitehim all that much. In fact, the amount of attention you do get from him slightly repulses you.
But you keep him around because maybe that feeling of repulsion will eventually go away. Or maybe youll meet someone else better. Its just better than being alone.
The guy youve been on-again off-again hooking up with for years
Hes comfortable and hes safe (minus the whole irreversible emotional and psychological damage part) to you, so you go back to him every time youre feeling lonely.
And every time you go back to this guy, you set yourself back about a million steps from actually finding someone solid.
Despite my sarcastic comments here and there, let me make one thing clear:BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ANY OF THESE NIMRODS IS WORSE THAN BEING SINGLE AND ALONE.
So stop forcing something that just isnt there because youre feeling lonely. The loneliness will pass eventually. But what these guys will do to your self-esteem will last a lot longer.
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